The "Perfect" Parent:
5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids

by Roma Khetarpal

Greenleaf Book Group LLC, 2014. ISBN 978-1-626-34103-6.
Reviewed by Judy M. Miller
Posted on 12/13/2014

Nonfiction: Life Lessons; Nonfiction: Relationships

Author Roma Khetarpal opens The "Perfect" Parent with the premise that ALL of us parents are perfect—"we are our own children's 'perfect' parents." She goes on to point out that all of us want our kids to be happy and I agree; this is what I want for my kids, right along with being safe and healthy. As a parent educator and coach, I have found "happy" to be the most common response when I ask parents and parents-to-be about what they want for their children.

However, there is another question rarely asked and equally as important, and actually my 15-year-old asked me this the other day during the drive home from her swim meet. Why do I parent? What is in it for me? My answer to my daughter's question was that I wanted know her and to have a wonderful, evolving, healthy relationship with her throughout her life. I was rewarded with one of her fabulous puppy-hugs when we arrived home.

Instead of the typical parenting book, which provide tips and examples on anything from potty training to discipline, The "Perfect" Parent is more of a parenting makeover for us, addressing why we parent and how we can better parent our kids. The foundation speaks to connection, made possible through good communication, or "coming together." True connection brings joy and this is a state of "fulfilling happiness."

Roma explains and provides wonderful examples of the five simple communication tools—honorable parenting, approachable parenting, sensible parenting, reasonable and responsible parenting, and enjoyable and memorable parenting—throughout the remainder The "Perfect" Parent. Each chapter ends with affirmation reminders and quick takeaways. The "Perfect" Parent Toolbox at the end of the book is a wonderful go-to when the reader needs a refresher after reading the book. And please do read the entire book, regardless of if you have been parenting for decades as I have or are expecting your first child; the toolbox will be more beneficial to you if you have done so. I definitely benefitted from this refresher.

To Roma: Thank you for helping to instill confidence in parents and parents-to-be, and for helping them to understand they have all the tools to be the perfect parents for their children. Parents just need to understand them and hone them, then they and their children will benefit.

Roma Khetarpal is the founder and CEO of Tools of Growth, through which she helps parents raise kids to "Be Happy, Think Positive, and Do Good." With parenting classes, community outreach, articles, reviews, and blog posts, Tools of Growth provides parents with simple, easy-to-remember, and effective communication tools that can help them build a strong foundation and relationship with their children. She is also an Executive Board Member of Philanthropic Society Los Angeles, which raises funds for Children's Institute, Inc. Discover more on her website.

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